# How to have a better perimenopause? ##### Your Perimenopause Blueprint Workshop ---  --- ## Summary > - Get clear about what matters to you and what does not. > - Say no, stop people pleasing, and live true to your values. > - Meet changes in your body with fierce self-compassion. --- ## Transcript I actually wrote a blog post on this a while back. You know, this is where you get clear about what matters to you. So again, that spiritual side and about what doesn't matter. This is about saying no. You get the chance to say no in midlife. It is so powerful to say no and to stop people pleasing. It's amazing when you finally start to set your boundaries and to go, "Actually, no, I don't think so. No, thank you." It's also a chance to do the work and to stop the self-loathing. Our body is changing, yes, but we need to go through these changes with so much fierce self-compassion. We need that desperately. This is our decade or our period in life to become unfuckwithable. It's such a brilliant word. It is literally where we have no more fucks left to give, and we're just going to live life our way. I'm not talking about being nasty with people or anything like that. That's not what I mean. But it's stopping people pleasing and living true to our values.