# get out of your own head by actively putting your focus on someone or something else > how do I get out of my own head? There are many tactics that you may hear, but for me, I find it best in the moment to actively put my focus on someone else. To deliberately make myself see the person in front of me, see myself in the arena with them -- what do they need, what do they fear and how can I help? This may sound like a whole lot of warm and fuzzy to you, but it's not.[[(Darria Long, 2019)#^v0i35]]