# arousal nonconcordance during the luteal phase can mean we are dry even when we want sex > she said, "So, my partner and I were in the middle of doing some things and I was like, 'I want you right now.' And he said, 'No, you're still dry, you're just being nice.' And I was so ready. So what's the matter, is it hormonal, should I talk to a doctor, what's going on?"Answer?It's arousal nonconcordance. If you're experiencing unwanted pain, talk to a medical provider. Otherwise -- arousal nonconcordance. Your genital behavior just doesn't necessarily predict your subjective experience of liking and wanting[[(Emily Nagoski, 2018)#^jmmas]]